Creating a world where sexuality is a healthy, positive, constructive force.

Long ago, I discovered a core truth about myself and my sexuality that has helped guide my sexual interests ever since then. Simply put, I am aroused by my partner's arousal, whether I'm actively contributing to it or just witnessing it. I experience joy in my partner's joy, whether that joy is emotional, intellectual, or sexual. I discovered the concept of polyamory when I was 32, and it was an profound epiphany for me to discover that I wasn't the only person who wanted *ethical* non-monogamy.

I am introspective by nature, and enjoy exploring questions like "what am I turned on by" and "why am I turned on by that?" or "why am I not turned on by that other thing?". I love discussing sexuality with other people, both because I will experience pleasure just in hearing their arousal, but also because such conversations allow me to broaden my sexual horizons and explore things I may not have considered before.

At the root of every one of my turn-ons is the core truth that I am aroused by my partner's arousal. I know exactly where this came from too ... I was raised Catholic, and the implicit message was that boys were bad because they thought about sex, and girls were good because they didn't think about sex. This is an utterly nonsensical message of course, but I was too naive to know that. But to this day, any indication that a partner is actively interested in sex, in being sexual, in exploring sexually ... all of this is a source of arousal and turn-on and pleasure for me.